Meeting new people is exciting, but you should always be careful when interacting with someone you don’t know about. Use your best judgment and put your safety first, whether you’re exchanging initial messages or meeting in person. While you can’t control the actions of others, there are things you can do to help you stay safe during your Oui, Meet experience.
Never send money, particularly via wire transfers, even if the individual claims to be in an emergency. Wiring money is like transmitting cash — it’s almost difficult to undo the exchange or track where the money goes. Never share information that might be used to access your financial accounts. If you are asked for money by another user, report it to us immediately.
Never share personal information, such as your social security number, home address or work address, or your daily routine (e.g. that you go to a gym every Monday) with people you don’t know about. If you are a parent, limit the information you share about your children to your profile and to early communication. Do not disclose information, such as the names of your babies, where they go to kindergarten, or their ages or genders.
Keep conversations on the Oui, Meet platform while you get to know someone. Use the virtual date option in the app before you’re confident sharing your phone number
Watch out for scammers who claim to be from your country but are stuck somewhere else, especially if they ask for financial help to get back home. Be cautious of someone who doesn’t meet in person or speak on a phone call or set up a virtual date—they may not be who they think they are. If someone avoids your questions or pushes for a serious relationship without first meeting or getting to know you — it’s a red flag.
Here are a few examples of abusive conduct:
Requests for cash or gifts
Harassment, threats, and offensive messages
Inappropriate or harmful behavior during or after a meeting in person;
Spam or advertising, like connections to commercial websites or efforts to offer goods or services;
You may raise some questions regarding unusual activity from either the profile page or chat window or to firstname.lastname@example.org See our Community Guidelines for more detail.
Be sure to use a good password, and please be vigilant when signing in from a public or mutual device to your account. Oui, Meet would never send you an email asking for your username and password information — if you get an email requesting for account details, report it instantly.
Meetings in person
When using the Live Meet function of the app please use the following safety precautions:
Be mindful of the possible effects of drugs or alcohol on you—they can affect your judgment and alertness. If your date is trying to force you to use drugs or drink more than you’re comfortable with, stand your ground and end the date.
Know where your drink came from and know where it is at all times — only drink beverages poured or delivered directly from the bartender or server. Most chemicals that sneak into cocktails to encourage sexual harassment are odorless, colorless, and tasteless. Keep your phone, purse, wallet, and anything that contains personal information about you at all times.
It’s alright to end the date early if you feel uncomfortable. It’s actually encouraged. And if your senses warn you something is wrong or you feel unsure or unsafe, ask the bartender or the server for support.
Personal wellbeing and consent:
All sexual activity must begin with consent and should include ongoing checks with your partner. Visual contact will allow you and your friend to insure that you value each other’s expectations. Consent can be withheld at any moment, and sex is never owed to someone. Should not act if your spouse is anxious or confused, or if your spouse is reluctant to agree due to the impact of drugs or alcohol.
When used correctly and consistently, condoms can significantly reduce the risk of contracting and passing on STIs such as HIV. But be aware of STIs such as herpes or HPV that can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact. Vaccination can reduce the chance of having certain STIs.
Not all STIs show symptoms and you don’t want to be in the dark about your status. Keep on top of your wellbeing and avoid the spread of STIs by getting screened periodically. This is where you can locate a doctor close to you (the US only).
Communication is key: talk about sexual health and STI testing before you get physically intimate with your partner. And be aware — in certain cases, it’s still a felony to knowingly transfer on the ST